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Skipping church and cell to go clubbing
I attend youth service and cell group sessions faithfully, but I feel judged when I want to skip cell for a friend's birthday, go clubbing occasionally, or skip church when I'm rushing an assignment.
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My mother seems reluctant to let me get engaged
Recently, my long-distance boyfriend of three years visited and planned to propose to me. He spoke to my mother to ask for her blessings, but she said she needed time to think and pray about it.
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Dating a non-Christian guy
I would like to intentionally date a non-Christian guy. However, I wonder if it is permissible since Christians should not be "unequally yoked". Our relationship has deepened over the past year, and he has been sharing more about his pluralistic views on faith with me.
You & Your Family
Modelling the family, both earthly and spiritual
Shame is a strong emotion that often shows up in my counselling sessions. Its presence can be debilitating; its absence can also be problematic. To explore healing from shame, I will share examples where shame was largely absent, was partially felt and where it can be overwhelming.
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An older course mate told me to masturbate
Last year, a course mate who is at least 20 years older than myself talked about his masturbation and porn obsession in video calls and text messages to me. He even told me to masturbate, which made me even more uncomfortable.
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My friend is being abused by his wife
I recently found out that my Christian friend's marriage has been on the rocks. His wife is abusive, both physically and verbally, and my friend has decided he's had enough and wants a divorce.
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A rift with mum
My mum has been a single parent since I was young. My sibling and I left to study abroad and thereafter returned to Singapore to work.
You & Your Family
Healing from shame: Guilt, forgiveness and moving forward
Shame is a strong emotion that often shows up in my counselling sessions. Its presence can be debilitating; its absence can also be problematic. To explore healing from shame, I will share examples where shame was largely absent, was partially felt and where it can be overwhelming.
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How do I prevent showing favouritism to my kids?
I know it's bad to show favouritism between children. However, in achievement-oriented Singapore, it is easy to praise one for their hard work and success at achieving a good score or getting an award.
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My married colleague has a profile on a dating app
I saw my colleague's profile on a dating app that I use. I know that he's married with kids. A mutual colleague who knows his wife also saw it and we are wondering what we should do, or not do anything at all and mind our own business.
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What’s the big deal about seeing a fortune teller?
I have been a Christian for years but I still see a fortune teller out of curiosity and just for fun. I find that what I'm told makes some sense to me. Some friends tell me not to, but I don't see what the big deal is.
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My husband is discontented with our marriage and wants out
I have been married for three years after having a steady relationship for five years. Lately, my husband seems discontented with marriage and wants out.
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Is it true forgiveness when you don’t forget?
Is it proper for Christians to say, "I can forgive but cannot forget"?
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How do I protect my friendship when we are CCA competitors?
My good friend and I have been shortlisted for a nationwide competition where we could be chosen to represent our school. We have different strengths and it is hard to say who will get chosen. As it is so competitive in Singapore, both of us desperately want to be chosen as we will get to list it as an achievement and get CCA points.
